18 August 2011

Discipline cannot be imposed Artificially!


          Any amount of good intention will remain just that unless it can be turned into effective Action. Without discipline no effective action is possible.

          The new mindset does not allow punishment; the law says no corporal punishment, even does not allow psychological punishment. Then what to do with the problem of discipline?

          What happens when we offer punishment to a child, in order to deal with problem of discipline? Actually, he suffers a movement of demeaning, breaks self confidence, self-respect, lose respect…resulting hardening of his heart. Then express it as anger, rebellion, and frustration in order to avoid being hurt.  The only way we know to handle pain is to harden our heart. As a result, one’s becomes more daring in breaking the rules and the problem spiral out of proportions.

         But if we can evoke only 'Sensitivity', then we will have little problem with discipline. Simply gets him introspect, connect him to his core, where he knows what the right thing is. To know by heart has the power to act.

          There is difference between knowing in heart & knowing in mind! When we know with mind we cannot act, what is known to heart turn into action spontaneously. Thus, in depth knowledge is more important. This is the fundamental principle to handle discipline.

Watching behavior of others!
          There are several ways of influencing behavior & modifying it to suit our convenience, which includes negative or positive reinforcement, change of motivation etc...

          It is already an established fact, all bad behavior stands from lack of love somewhere, deliberate bad behavior is just a bad habit and that can be changed or corrected...

          When we scold someone for wrong behavior, just avoid condemning and try to distinguish from the behavior by conscious positive reinforcement of personality. Whenever offer criticism offer a solution with it. That respect and trust become the driving force for change to come. Actually, one cannot change a wrong habit to other, unless that habit is changed in him. Certainly, we can’t expect that everyone to come to his/her level...

Think! if you can define a standard, What we call good behavior!...
At least we can set our ground rules! Let’s define own sanctions! It should be consistent and impartial...

Enjoy to earn self-respect...

7 comments:

prasanna raghavan said...

You have put it so nicely and simply. Very realistic way of approaching the question of discipline :)

S.R.Ayyangar said...

Discipline can be taught to some extent when young, rest should come from within.

Being_AC said...

@ Prasanna Raghavan,
Thank you Prasanna, actually ur will is nice & simply relating discipline :) carry on..

@ S.R.Ayyangar,
Thanks! Mr.Annangar to arrive a right conclusion. But still I try to find discipline in anything and everywhere..

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